A few weeks ago, I was hit by news that shook me deeply; the passing of my father.
We all knew it was coming at some point, but the suddenness of it caught me unprepared. It left me unstable for days.
Meanwhile, life and work continued to demand my attention. My team members kept calling:
“Miss Vickie, we need to record new TV episodes.”
“We need to schedule authors.”
“You have speaking engagements here and there.”
“Rehearsals for THRONOS 2025 (our annual worship experience), are ongoing…”
And there I was – absent, broken, and struggling. For someone who is usually the one holding others up, I found myself in a complete mess.
Some people said to me, “But your dad was old, why does it hurt this much?” Others tried to comfort me with, “He fought a good fight, he’s in a better place.” Some even said that I feel the impact more because I am the youngest. But grief doesn’t discriminate by age or birth order. The loss of a father cuts deeply, no matter who you are.
Their words were well-meant, but in those moments, they only echoed in my heart as questions: “Do they truly understand what they’re saying?”
The truth is, we often underestimate the depth of grief, especially when it involves losing someone as close as a parent. How do you deal with it? How do you pick up the pieces?
I’ve come to learn that grief is not something you “get over”- just like that. However, it passes with time.
I am constantly reminded in this valley that… “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Yes, it is well with our souls.
I am journaling more these days, reflecting on both memories and lessons, but writing my tribute to my dad has been harder than I ever imagined. Yet, I trust that healing comes in gentle waves.
May we all learn not only to grieve with grace, but also to comfort others with compassion.
To everyone walking through grief right now, my prayer is that the Lord will carry you through, one day at a time.
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